Who in your life gets the best out of you? You could probably come up with a couple of names, right?
What if I asked you who gets the worst out of you? Somehow, they agitate you, they get under your skin, and they make you feel insecure. And it doesn’t make you perform well. I’m not talking about a guy that drives you. I’m talking about a downer. Do you have people like that in your life?
What’s more important? Is it more important to surround yourself with these types of people or around those that lift you up?
Russell Wilson was a Super Bowl champion who got a hold of this one guy who was premier at developing a winner’s mindset. His name? Trevor Mawa. When he got a hold of Russell Wilson in 2012, they talked every single day on the phone till he died in 2021. Russell Wilson goes into the nfl. I think his draft was 2012. This guy’s got a reputation with Nick Saban. He’s worked with uh, over a dozen, uh, first-round draft picks, 700 athletes. Coaches start believing in this Trevor guys mindset of developing leaders. When he and Russell Wilson met for the first time, Russell Wilson said, “Hey man, you know it’s good to meet you.” He says, “I hear you’re supposed to be great. What are you supposed to be great at?
Here are 5 techniques he used to get people mentally strong:
- 1. Go neutral – neutral thinking means accepting the idea that when something good or bad happens, it just happens. Instead of getting caught up in the negativity of a bad past or a mental/physical mistake, you just accept that it happened and move on.
- 2. Stop giving credence to feelings – feelings are confusing and misleading. Sometimes they are accurate depictions of reality and sometimes they’re not. The more we pay attention to our feelings, the more we move away from our capabilities and our training.
- 3. Use what you have. People that get the best out of you typically work with what you have. People that get the worst out of you typically will compare you to other people on what they have and what you don’t have.
- 4. Focus on reducing negativity. Not increasing positivity. Less negative is significantly more powerful than more positive.
- 5. Watch your language. What you say out loud is far more powerful than your self-talk. Great teams are great at communicating powerfully and positively with each other. It matters less what you tell yourself and more what you tell your teammates.
Who gets the worst out of you? How long do you think you can go avoiding those people that get the worst out of you? You think you can go on a 30-day diet? What do you think? If you live with them, you have a problem. But you have to do your best.
Some of you watching this may get hurt. Brace for impact – you’re not going to like this part. You ready? The five people you hang out with the most are winning in life and they’re positive and they’re happy. You are not that person but if the five people around you in your life are complaining, struggling financially, always blaming somebody else, you get to pick and choose. This was not a message for everybody, but either way, whatever it is – you have to decide who you want to surround yourself with. I recommend surrounding yourself with people that make you better, more successful, people that lift you up.
To watch Patrick Bet-David’s full Monday Motivation video, click HERE.
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