Life is as simple as we make it.

The way we perceive life matters immensely.

If we choose to look at things in a negative light, everything will seem negative.

On the flip side, if we look at the world in a more positive light, no matter how difficult it may seem, life will naturally be more smooth for you, and the same applies to parenting!

Here are 5 reasons your children may not be listening to you and how to combat the situations going forward:


1. You’re Saying Too Much

Children have short attention spans. You can go on and on about how much you didn’t like that they drew on the walls, but the message may still never come through to them.

Keep it simple and stick to one or two points.

2. Your Tone is Threatening

It’s all about your tone. Kids don’t listen to what you say, they only hear how you say it. This is true for adults too!

Nobody likes to be yelled at or spoken to rudely, let alone a little child. If you yell at them, they will reciprocate.

Kids imitate what they see, especially, if they admire you. Parents set the example. If you yell, they will yell. If you’re tense, they will be tense. Serenity breeds serenity.

Take a deep breath and address it kindly. Kids don’t do things intentionally. They are innocent at heart and sometimes all it takes is a deep breath to remind yourself it’s all going to be okay…

3. You Give Them too Many Warnings 

If you repeat yourself, your child will start to tune you out.

Give directions once. If they don’t listen, proceed with a warning and be ready to give them a consequence if they don’t take action.

4. You Make Meaningless Threats

Threats like “I’m throwing away all your toys if you don’t pick them up!” aren’t likely to work.

You say it because you’re frustrated, but all they’re gaining from this is that you never follow through!

Children are quick to recognize when a parent cannot or will not follow through with outrageous punishments and then they won’t take you seriously.

5. You Participate in Power Struggles

Don’t bother arguing with your children.

It’s a waste of time and all it does is upset both of you. You’re the adult and have full control of the situation, but that doesn’t mean acting like a dictator will help you get what you want.

Arguing won’t get you anywhere. Patience is key. Remember… deep breaths! It’s going to be okay! 

Chances are if you are arguing with your child about meaningless things, there is something much deeper at the core of the problem. Reflect on what might be bothering you and take some time for yourself to relax. If you want to be the best parent possible, that doesn’t mean burning yourself out and stretching yourself too thin.

You have to make time for self-care, even if it’s only 30 minutes a day. For some, it might be a workout or a meditation, for others, it might be getting a massage or spending time with friends. Even a FaceTime will do if you’re short on time and can’t leave the house.

Always treat yo self mama!  (or papa!) 😉 💜 


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