Who are you trying to please in life? Are there certain names that come to your mind? You may be saying, “I don’t need to be pleasing anybody.”
I have a list and I’m very comfortable with it. Let’s unpack this whole concept of who to please, who not to please, and what happens when you succeed.
As we succeed, we can have more people in our lives because, with more success, your team grows. You need more people to help you out, right? So, you get more team members, more support and more customers and more clients.
And when you start winning, you are in new communities. You make new friends. You know, if you get married, you know her friends, his friends, different communities, right? Gradually, what happens is that you reach a certain level, which is kind of confusing for certain people. This is called GUILT MANAGEMENT.
What do you do with that? You’re winning. You have more money – you have more success. Sometimes money just makes you more of what you are. If you were full of yourself at 17 years old, you’re still going to be full of yourself when successful at 42, just with more money. But if you were chill, you were cool, you were good to be around when you were 17 years old, you’re just as chill, cool and good to be around.
How do you handle this guilt management?
- I want to make my four kids proud, right? I don’t care to be perfect. I don’t have the standard of perfection for anybody in my life. But I want you to become a leader. Those are my standards, right? My list is not long – the most important people – the people that are a 100% loyal to our vision is who I want to make proud because those are relationships that are important to me. Whether it be an insurance company I am running or a media company, it doesn’t matter. Being loyal to the cause and helping the company get to the next level. Those people matter because it takes a lot of effort to be at that level. But do I want to please everybody? No. Why not? It’s impossible. You try to do that? You will not live a happy life.
When two people reason and you explain solutions and act upon it, solutions are made. When two people can’t reason and one’s using guilt, you’re going to be constantly feeling like you’re the idiot here. You’re not. This person’s using guilt against you. Only reason with people who have the ability to reason and make sense. So going back to it, you succeed. More people enter in your life – phenomenal, awesome! That only means that there are fewer people you need to please.
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