1. Ditch Any and All Limiting Beliefs
The Buddha once said, “The mind that perceives the limitation is the limitation“
Limiting beliefs cause us to focus on what we can’t do or what might never be possible.
Silence any thoughts that don’t help you grow.
2. Cut the Negative Self-Talk
Negative thoughts are the culprit of low-self esteem.
Consistent negative thoughts damage your self-esteem and confidence.
Whatever you feed your mind will grow.
You get to decide whether you want to cultivate a positive mindset or a negative mindset.
Everyday, tell yourself positive affirmations and you will start to notice a difference in your mindset.
The more you say something, the more likely you are to believe it.
3. Pinpoint Exactly Why You Lack Confidence
Identify the specific reasons why you don’t feel confident.
Make a list. Ask others you trust and respect where you can make improvements. Feedback is the key to success and making improvements.
Don’t be sensitive about it… Just remember it’s for your own betterment.
Once you find out exactly what the problem might be, you can then put together a plan that will help you be more confident.
Some people struggle with eye contact, others turn beat red when speaking in front of a crowd.
Don’t be afraid to admit your weaknesses… we all have them.
4. Self-Reflect
Self-reflection is so important.
Every day, set aside some time to reflect on yourself. Take 30 minutes a day to focus on ways you can improve yourself and your life.
Call it a “self-improvement” session, and brainstorm what you can do to improve.
If you’re not self-reflecting, it will be much harder to pinpoint your struggles and where your self-esteem needs work.
Confidence is multi-faceted.
Everyone struggles differently and if you don’t take the time to think about what you can do to improve yourself, it will be very difficult to see any substantial changes.
5. Embrace a Positive Mindset
A lack of confidence often originates from negative thoughts that chip away at us.
These thoughts destroy our self-image and self-worth and they’re not easy to get rid of, either.
To do so, you will need to combat each negative thought with multiple positive thoughts. Reflect on each positive affirmation before moving onto the next.
Depending on the person, it can take anywhere from 18-254 days to form a new habit.
On average, it takes 66 days for a new behavior to become automatic.
6. Get off Social Media
58% of Americans say social media negatively affects their mental health
Social media is very distorting of reality. People only post what they want you to see.
It’s an illusion.
The platforms have become a very toxic space for people to create fake versions of themselves.
It’s so easy to lose confidence while browsing on social media.
If you find yourself feeling down after browsing the various platforms, don’t feel bad.
Among those affected, 64% experience anxiety from social media use.
Users also experience depression (56%), dissatisfaction with life (52%), fear of missing out (52%), and body image issues (51%) as a result of these apps
Facebook, Instagram, and TikTok top list of social media platforms that are most harmful to mental health
7. Face Your Fears
If you fail to face your fears, you will never be able to grow or make the positive changes for yourself.
It’s not easy to overcome your fears, but it will definitely be worth it.
Facing your fears is the key to becoming a more confident person. Facing our fears allows us to gain control, and when we feel that we are in control, a sense of confidence and comfort follows.
Facing your fears will eliminate the things that might be wrecking your confidence and self-esteem.
Remember, we are all a work in progress. Nobody is perfect, but if you actively make the efforts to make positive changes, you will thank yourself down the road.
8. Stop Comparing Yourself to Others
You are not them. They are not you.
Embrace your individuality. We are all uniquely different and beautiful in our own ways. One person is no better than another. We are all human-beings.
Everyone is struggling with their own problems.
While people may seem to have “high-self-esteem,” there is a good chance they can list more than a few things about themselves that they’d like to change.
Focus on yourself and what you can do to improve.
Pay little mind to what other do and say. Most of the time, people are projecting anyway.
9. Be Curious
Curiosity helps you grow.
It might motivate you to try something new and be open to alternative perspectives and ideas.
Going through the process of experiencing these new things, perspectives and ideas can help boost confidence.
Being curious allows your mind to something to actively focus on so it stays busy on positive things.
It also can point you in new directions that you didn’t know were possible and change your life for the better.
10. Learn a New Skill
Knowledge is power.
Learning new skills will naturally make you more confident because it will make you more knowledgable and resourceful.
Having the ability to do something well is very impressive.
Most people struggle to gain expertise in even one area.
Developing new skills will open doors for you and boost your confidence organically.
Utilize resources such as podcasts, conferences, books, and mentors to further build your confidence.
11. Always Remember This…
Becoming more confident begins and ends with YOU.
The only thing we have control of is ourselves.
Your actions and choices, paired with consistent daily habits that focus on improving your self will allow you to reach new levels of confidence.
Reminding yourself that you can choose to be confident goes a long way toward actually being confident. Once you start believing what you tell yourself, confidence levels can rise along with success, happiness and satisfaction.
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ABOUT THE WRITER:
Elena Patestas is a journalist and writer for Valuetainment media. She attended Pepperdine University in Malibu, California, and Adelphi University on Long Island, New York. She was born and raised in Roslyn, New York, and currently lives in Miami, Florida.
Elena is passionate about bringing positive change to our world and believes education is the root to solving many societal problems. After overcoming a chronic health condition, Elena became passionate about health and believes food is the key to preventing dis-ease and achieving optimum health.
Amongst her many goals, she hopes to bring positive, impactful change to our world to create a healthy, financially sound, and unified society.
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